The first time you had an orgasm story is probably far better than the first time you had sex story. And TBH, they hardly ever overlap. In fact, it's quite possible your first orgasm wasn't with another person at all, but from masturbation.
For people with a clitoris or a vagina, this is how to achieve an orgasm on your own terms. But we forget that on the screens, especially the small ones pornographyan orgasm is often performative. They can visibly ejaculate.
Ah, the first orgasm. Some women get up close and comfortable with their pleasure at a young age, and can't place a finger on when it all began. But others remember their first big O as a momentous event that happened much later in life, after many years of wondering.
People of all ages, genders, and sexualities came through with their bumbling, awkward, and hilarious first times. Here are just some of their responses:. I was a young and eager learner. I had a major back surgery when I was 12 that left me bedridden for almost a month, so I was staying with my grandmother who was very much a part of the local church.
For many, their very first orgasm is an exciting first step toward exploring their sexuality. Others hardly remember it. Experiences range from embarrassing to romantic highlight.
For some reason, many of us see it as The End Goal and the whole point of having sex. This puts a huge amount of pressure on women to either climax which BTW is not the optimum atmosphere for actually coming or fake it so their partner doesn't feel bad or like they can't please them. Here, 11 women share the age at which they first had an orgasm.
Whether it happens intentionally or by accident, most women remember the first time they hit the orgasm jackpot. Further exploration led to a truly OMG moment, after which I became a big fan of early nights — no doubt much to the confusion of my parents. An entire world of solo entertainment had opened up and I wasted no time in giving myself a strained wrist from the efforts to keep that feeling going.
It was worth the wait. Photo: iStock Source:Whimn. As the waves of pleasure wracked my body, I burst into tears. It took a long time, baby.
Sex should be fun, but it can also be complicated. Welcome to Sexual Resolutiona biweekly column by sex therapist Vanessa Marin that answers all your most confidential questions to help you achieve the healthy, safe, and joyful sex life that you deserve. She wants to know if she really had one or not.